INSIGHTS
MARCH 2013
Dear Friend:
I've introduced a few new aspects on the monthly calendar on this site that I want to briefly explain. I've added a "Yellow Line" to represent "intensified human emotional energy", the result of mass consciousness that is strongly affecting our world, especially those of us who are sensitive. I've also added "Orange Days" (underlined on the calendar) to represent extremely intensified, chaotic energy that can often result in violence and when the "Orange Days" are combined with a red or blue line, watch out, because the energy is even more magnified.
During these intensive human emotional energy days try to remember that It only takes two things to make any relationship last. Those two things are caring and consideration. I'm talking about the small things, because it is really the small things that matter the most. When we come to our later years, we don't remember much about those things that at the time we thought were large events in our lives. What we remember are words that touched us deeply. words that warmed our heart and words that cut through and injured our Soul. And we remember actions. We remember that when someone we love was watching television with us and they got up to get themselves a cup of tea, they said to us "I'm going to make a cup of tea for myself. Would you like one?" We remember that when that same person said they were going to be home at 8 o'clock, they were there at 8 o'clock, and if they couldn't be there at 8 o'clock, they called to let us know.
When common courtesy dissipates from a relationship, it feels like betrayal. In fact, it is betrayal. It's the breaking of a vow. It boils down to sheer dishonoring of the other person. So if there is lack of courtesy, the relationship is doomed and if there is lack of caring, the relationship is doomed. I'm not saying that we need to be constantly "making love" or constantly saying, "I love you, I love you, I love you". I'm saying that we need to be loving with each other. We need to give evidence of caring.
Love can die from abuse, and love can die from malnutrition or neglect.
Now as I said when I first began this letter, most of the situations that cause emotional pain and result in verbal blow-ups are the result of misunderstandings, and so when you see the colored lines on my calendar, oh my gosh - please do not let yourself get into a dispute. And I really want you to remember that during those times, we are overly sensitive, that's why I'm saying it's so important to not have a conversation until we've had a chance to work our way through all the spinning that goes on in our minds and all the pain that comes up from the spinning.
Please do not let yourself lose people you love because of misunderstandings. Please hear what I have said in this letter and strive to understand it and practice better communication. For instance, when a person says something that hurts you, say to them, "When you said that, I felt ___________. Is that what you wanted me to feel?" Or, "When you said that, I thought ___________. Is that what you wanted me to think?"
By learning to use your words in this kind of manner, you are learning to not place blame, and then you can have conversations and not arguments. You can say simply, "I am feeling this, did you intend it?” "I thought you said that - is that what you meant?" You are not blaming them, you are asking them. You are empowering yourself by telling them how you feel when they act in certain ways or say certain things. And are taking responsibility for your own reactions.
It's so important to realize that no one can make you be or do anything. Whatever is in your life, you wanted, you created your experience. There is a time for everything: there is a time when we want something, then there is a time when we get it, then there is a time when we no longer need it or have use for it and that is the time when we need to release it. Releasing is the hardest thing. We want to hold onto everything, because we might need it some other time.
Understanding these few rules about how to have better relationships and have our needs filled can help us put our lives on track and live with less stress and have much more overtly expressed compassion and love in our lives.
Don't forget to tell the people in your lives whom you Love that you do indeed Love them......AND....
Stay Focused on the Light....
Dixie Yeterian
